Why guys dont work

Leg day. More impressive still, leg day err, legday is the happy meme that exists on all social media platforms. On Twitter, legday manifests as people telling the world that today is, in fact, legday, and showing how it gives one a shapely butt and correspondingly thicc thighs.

Winter time is for puttin some mass on dat ass… ya feel me? Quite the leg day tonight at Flex Gym Virginia Beach. Keeping it weird legday treetrunks. For men, that usually means videos of them squatting and showing off striated quads that could be mistaken for gnarled tree trunks. Felt good with 5 but 6 was a struggle on the last set front squat feels good inzerbelt legday anytimefitness. A post shared by Jeremy Featherstone featherstone. Been incorporating this motion as of late… sissy squats pressing from the toes on the smith machine.

So what's the secret to getting your guy to share? Read on—and get ready to receive an earful. It's true. Most men feel that women are very critical of them, and they worry that if they do open up, someone's going to laugh at them, leaving them rejected and humiliated. It's important for women to realize that a man's ego and sense of identity are generally more fragile than hers and more easily threatened. That is especially so when he's in an intimate relationship: He craves acknowledgment, feedback and knowing that he's pleased you.

So if a man feels that you are going to judge him, or look at him differently as a result of what he says, you can be sure that he won't talk. Not judging your partner means allowing him to say what is on his mind, and simply being willing to hear it. This does not mean that you don't have an opinion or that you can't offer it at some point.

In order for him open up to you, he has to feel truly accepted for who he is, not for who you may want him to be. Be patient with him. If you respond to his thoughts by immediately offering your point of view with something like "Well, that's wrong.

I don't agree" or, "Where did you get a crazy idea like that? They're afraid if they say something too personal, it may not fit into the image you have of them, or the image they force themselves to project.

A man is many different things at different points in his life—even at different points in the week or day. Don't be afraid to allow him to show you all different parts of himself. If you can let go of your expectations and really just try to find out who he is, he will immediately sense it, feel greatly at ease and enjoy talking to you. There must be mutual disclosure between partners. Everybody has problems, fears and skeletons in the closet. Many guys think, "If I share this, she'll leave me.

When he starts to open up, listen to what he is saying, then take a step beyond and offer something positive in return. After he tells you something personal, say something like, "Well, that's not so bad. I've done worse. Don't make this up, though. It will fall flat and turn into manipulation. People always know when they are being manipulated on some level and it never works out.

Let him know you're on his team, that he is not alone with his experience. Make sure as you give him feedback, that you take his side. Many women listen to the stories that men tell only to respond by telling him how he's been looking at it wrong. They take the side of someone else. The gym can be a terrifying place for a guy who has never really worked out before, especially since it's basically ground zero for the worst kind of emasculation there is.

But there's something else at work here, something that is difficult to explain, but to understand it is to see into the very weirdness that is guy logic. Ever hear of Shrodinger's cat?

It's a thought experiment where a cat is placed in a box with poisoned food, giving it a chance that it will eat the poison and die. If you never open the box, then as far as you're concerned, the cat could still be alive.

But if you open the box and it's dead, you've basically killed the cat since you now know for sure that it ate the poison.

It's called the observer's paradox, meaning that it's the observation itself that affects the outcome. Well, for a guy, going to the gym is like Shrodinger's cat. If he never goes to the gym, then he won't be observed struggling to bench press the pound bar, which means that there is still a chance that he's actually really strong.

So basically, as long as he never goes to the gym, there's no way to know for sure that he's weak. At the time I worked hours a day and then when I came home he had the nerve to ask me what was for dinner, to clean up, to have sex before I was celibate. And then he had the nerve to get mad when I was to tired or legit told him he was home all day, not making any money, and he could at least do something while he was at home.

This was a huge conflict in our relationships because he wanted the benefits of a man but he was not a man. It got to the point where I did not want to sleep with him at all and I lost attraction to him. Because I was like his mother at this point and I was not attracted to my son. Eating means feasting, so why should he have a feast when his actions prove that he should be in famine. No able bodied man should be satisfied with his women doing everything and him doing nothing and sad to say that this mentality that has happened entirely too much.

So if you have a man like this, then you do not have a man. Because more than anything a real man that wants to step up and be a man will do anything that he needs to do to ensure that he eats. To ensure that he gives off the persona of being a real man. And sitting up being lazy and depending on his woman does not signify a man that you want a long term relationship with.

And it goes against the grain of what a real man is. Because I can predict the augmentative nature of the internet, I do want to address the stay at home dad.

I get that there are plenty of stay at home dads. It is not my thing, but if it is your thing then okay. But before he uses the term stay at home dad, make sure the term is not being used for a man who stays at home and does nothing. What do people expect when women are a stay at home mom. They expect for the woman to cook, clean, and help the kids out. So if they are a stay at home dad then I suspect his role should be similar. You cannot be stay at home dad parked on the couch all day and still expect your woman to work and be the homemaker.

Being a homemaker is work so if that is the role he wants to take on then, he actually need to do it. I expect the laundry to be done, the dishes to be washed, the house to be cleaned, dinner to be cooked, and the children to be fed.

Do not pass your stay at home father for a man that you have to come home and clean up after. If that is the case then your man falls into the If a man does not work he does not eat category. Do not let a man pull the wool over your eyes and say that he is a stay at home dad when really he is staying at home and not doing anything. Now if you do not have any kids and your partner is a stay at home Dad then I am confused.

What is he doing all day? What I am sick of hearing is this whole ride or die mentality. Women saying to themselves that their man has no job is not currently looking for a job, and you must ride for him and do everything humanly possible for him so that he knows that you are a ride or die. A man will tell you that if you love him it will not matter that he does not have a job, you will love him, provide for him, and care for him that is what a real woman does. The man may even try to blame his shortcomings on you.

Forget the fact that as woman you did all that on your own but if a man is blaming you for being a man child then you can almost bet that his man child behavior is not temporary. It is permanent and he lacks the ability to take personal responsibility.

Let me explain something to you ladies. If you are trying to be a ride or die, female, then ask yourself if your man is a ride or die for you? If you are busting your behind doing everything in your power to prove to a man that he can trust you, you can be there for him, and that you are understanding of his situation, that you are not going anywhere, and you are going to take care of him then ask yourself is he willing to do the same for you? The fact of the matter is that men who not willing to work are just looking for women to lay up on and under.